The New Golden Rule

From a very young age, we are taught the Golden Rule: "Treat others as you would like to be treated". We were all set up for disappointment by thinking that treating others nicely would in return make them treat us nicely. I am not saying that everybody should run around being assholes to each other. But I think that it is time we start thinking about things realistically rather than in fairy tale world.

People are going to do what they have to do to get what they want. That is the Golden Rule. Some people will push the boundaries farther than other people, but at the end of the day, we all want to be happy.

Here it is: You are going to be treated the way you allow people to treat you. If you allow others to walk all over you and make you feel insignificant, they will. Maybe just for shits and giggles. How you allow them to treat you is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself.

I only know this because I have spent years and year being treated like shit and playing the victim. I continually place the blame on other people for my own shortcomings. Now, I am not saying that those who have hurt me were not in the wrong. It is always wrong to treat any human being without the respect and integrity that we all deserve. But what I am saying is that these people tested me. They started out acting like Jesus Christ himself, and slowly, they began to see what they could get away with. What they could say or do without getting "in trouble".

I let them get away with treating me like crap. I let them do those things, say those things. I let them get to me. And as much as it is their fault, it is my own as well.

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  1. This made me cry. It really makes me wonder about mine own as well. I didn't choose my shitty parents, but I should have had the tools to not let them get to me; Especially, themother.


    Thanks for writing this. It means alot :)